Comments on: Litost http://stolich.wordpress.com/2008/05/06/litost/ Fri, 25 Jul 2008 13:31:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU By: aporia http://stolich.wordpress.com/2008/05/06/litost/#comment-639 aporia Sat, 10 May 2008 00:27:45 +0000 http://stolich.wordpress.com/2008/05/06/litost/#comment-639 Like choosing the wrong major, many times we have a tingling feeling in the back of our hearts telling us that this isn't the right choice. But so many more times we tell ourselves what we know <em>should</em> be the right thing to do. And of course, in the end, we sometimes regret. Relationships are certainly like that, & you're certainly right. Females are especially good at lying to themselves. But then without being in r'ships we wouldn't know what we aren't ready for... Like choosing the wrong major, many times we have a tingling feeling in the back of our hearts telling us that this isn’t the right choice. But so many more times we tell ourselves what we know should be the right thing to do. And of course, in the end, we sometimes regret.

Relationships are certainly like that, & you’re certainly right. Females are especially good at lying to themselves. But then without being in r’ships we wouldn’t know what we aren’t ready for…

]]> By: pillowtalker http://stolich.wordpress.com/2008/05/06/litost/#comment-635 pillowtalker Thu, 08 May 2008 19:03:12 +0000 http://stolich.wordpress.com/2008/05/06/litost/#comment-635 I have always gained much inspiration and insight from Kundera.... It really is amazing the things we cannot let ourselves see (ie studying the wrong major) until we are ready. So much in life is our perception and yet most of the time we seem to grasp so little because we are not ready to deal with mending things if we see them clearly. It sounds like you now have that courage to move forward in this way. So you could see it now. Many of us stay in relationships, for example, for much longer than we should because we do not truly see the effects of the relationship on ourselves - or the other person - because we are not *ready* to leave. At that point in our lives, the relationship is still offering something we feel we need and are not ready to leave behind. I know, I know....I relate almost everything to relationships but that's just how my mind is wired. Best of luck in moving forward. I have always gained much inspiration and insight from Kundera….

It really is amazing the things we cannot let ourselves see (ie studying the wrong major) until we are ready. So much in life is our perception and yet most of the time we seem to grasp so little because we are not ready to deal with mending things if we see them clearly. It sounds like you now have that courage to move forward in this way. So you could see it now.

Many of us stay in relationships, for example, for much longer than we should because we do not truly see the effects of the relationship on ourselves - or the other person - because we are not *ready* to leave. At that point in our lives, the relationship is still offering something we feel we need and are not ready to leave behind.

I know, I know….I relate almost everything to relationships but that’s just how my mind is wired.

Best of luck in moving forward.

]]> By: aporia http://stolich.wordpress.com/2008/05/06/litost/#comment-627 aporia Wed, 07 May 2008 20:07:36 +0000 http://stolich.wordpress.com/2008/05/06/litost/#comment-627 Kundera sees realism in depressive states. Kundera sees realism in depressive states.

]]> By: dima http://stolich.wordpress.com/2008/05/06/litost/#comment-625 dima Wed, 07 May 2008 17:42:18 +0000 http://stolich.wordpress.com/2008/05/06/litost/#comment-625 thats why I love Milan Kundera thats why I love Milan Kundera

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