How About 60 First Dates?
Time’s passing fast. It’s been 4 days since I last saw him.
During these times we’ve had little contact. I text him, he’s texted back little.
My heart cringes for a normal boyfriend who would respond back with some enthusiasm, but not a plain friendly Hello.
My heart cringes when I experience that hint of a passionate love this afternoon, walking home from uni, thinking if I’m doing the right thing.
I suppress my feelings.
He’s not around. I remind myself I’m not married.
I’m a student, he has a life.
But things still don’t come together.
It hurts, it hurts and I bite my knee to stop myself from breaking down and crying.
Isn’t you who said she’ll be patient and be through with this?!
Isn’t you who said she won’t mind him taking 3 years to decide?!
Isn’t you who want to be independent?!
Isn’t you who promised to be loving and caring?!
I don’t want to let myself down. It’s only been 3 months, it’s Not That Long. It’s short for him, it’s a short time to build trust. Let him be, let him be. Let him be.
But suddenly.
Why am I doing this to myself?
Being the all mature and grown-up female controlling the stage of this relationship show at backstage in the dark. What’s in this for me?
I feel like -
I feel like I’m looking after someone who can’t and doesn’t recognize me.
Like 50 First Dates? Yea, very funny.
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March 27, 20:46 at
“I text him, he’s texted back little. My heart cringes for a normal boyfriend who would respond back with some enthusiasm, but not a plain friendly Hello.”
Why does your heart cringe? Men communicate through actions better than words. I feel like women set themselves up for disappointment when they expect so much verbal communication out of a man…
Not to kick you when your down, just my thoughts.
March 27, 20:53 at
I understand that. But four days without any desire to contact? How would you explain that?
It feels like it’s fading faster than a long-distance relationship, if that makes sense. When it’s a very short-distance relationship, like 5min away.
March 27, 21:06 at
Like I said… Men communicate through action. If it’s been four days and he hasn’t dropped by to see you, he is either a) massively swamped at work/school or b) he is not that into you. =(
March 27, 21:11 at
Thanks hun. Unfortunately, as I might have mentioned this somewhere on my blog before, he has a heavy trust/interaction issue. His exes have complained about the very same thing and while most of them decided to leave (and probably, further damaging his personality and avoidant behaviour), I’ve decided to stay.
Yea… it’s not a “typical guy” situation >.<
March 28, 09:56 at
I am a bit lost how his possesive issues mean he doesn’t contact you. I would have thought that woukld have meant he kept more of an eye on you. He suckered you up with sweets and then got a good dose of fucking in. In the words of Ali G ayeee!
March 28, 09:58 at
I don’t completely concur.
March 28, 10:51 at
I always see the cynical side in guys. I wasn’t trying to offend you. I’m old you know that. I was just thinking about the txt’s since as a guy I think its nice to txt the girl in the morning when you are getting ready for work/etc. Then around lunch just to let her know you are thinking about her and she is your distraction. Then in the evening. It just keeps you close rather than getting that distant feeling after a few days of solitude. When I have had a gf for convience then after a sleep over (fuck fest) it would take a few days to recover, you forget to text and loose interest. Then those thoughts enter your head, you picture the chick and take action. Thats when you text them and say ‘what are you doing, can I come over?’.
I said trust him; for his benifit not yours.